This week I would like to share with you a quote that struck me deeply. I ran across it in James Clear’s 3-2-1 Thursday weekly newsletter.
Author Heidi Priebe on loving someone as they change:
"To love someone long-term is to attend a thousand funerals of the people they used to be. The people they're too exhausted to be any longer. The people they don't recognize inside themselves anymore. The people they grew out of, the people they never ended up growing into.
We so badly want the people we love to get their spark back when it burns out; to become speedily found when they are lost.
But it is not our job to hold anyone accountable to the people they used to be. It is our job to travel with them between each version and to honor what emerges along the way."
Sitting at a table, scrolling through my email as I waited to pick up dinner, this quote unexpectedly almost brought me to tears. What struck me most was recognizing it is myself that needs to tend to my own funerals of selves I no longer am, selves I’ve grown out of, or never became, in order to make room for the new self generating now.
Until next Friday!
Be well, breathe, read, resist and make some art!
Jen